Romance And Marriage Tips

1. What have you found helpful in your marriage to keep your love alive and growing?

Long talks with each other. Nothing planned just time to share ideas and talk about dreams-Jeni

Date nights!!! We have to have date nights to have specific nights set aside to talk and be together. With four small children all wanting our attention we have to get away or set aside specific time for each other.- Shiloah

Knowing when not to sweat the small stuff. Laughing a lot. Also, for us, I think THE most important thing is mutual trust and respect. We never sweat the small stuff...it's not worth it. In our 32 years, we've been through a lot: happiness, grief, tough times, lean years but we worked through all of it TOGETHER! We never forget what our marriage vows said and we both play the words over in our heads many times. Over time, our love has deepened and you couldn't pry us apart now with a crow bar! -Faye B.

Making sure each of us knows how important we are to one another. Not assuming the other "just knows" it.

I tuck mushy cards in his briefcase or coat pocket for him to find at work. One Saturday while he was napping on the couch, I hopped onto his laptop and wrote him a love letter and saved it as..."To My Love". Many months later, around lunch time, I was surprised with a dozen roses....the card read, "To My Love," With other very tender thoughts from dh. I knew then he had found my letter.

Also, after a very romantic evening of dinner and dancing and just being alone together---something dh and I get very, very rarely...I sent a dozen roses to his office...the card simply said: "WOW!" My husband came home telling me I caused quite a stir in the office that day.

Simple things...like breakfast in bed, throwing blankets and pillows on the floor in the living room and cuddling together while watching a romantic movie. We give each other neck and shoulder massages at the very least 4 times a week. My hubby often lets me sleep in on the weekends and I wake to the delicious smell of pancakes or French toast and freshly brewed coffee.

Sometime he calls me from work, just to tell me that he misses me. Or he will I.M. me during the day for the same reason...or to say that he wanted to tell me that he loves me. I don't IM him first. I never know when he's actually at his computer...but I have called him for those reasons...and have left mushy messages on his voice mail, too. He comes home for lunch now and then...sometimes he brings lunch with him. Sometimes I make something special. Once in a while, he'll hang out with me in the morning...after the kids are in school...to have a cup of coffee with me before going to work.

These are the gestures that mean the most to me......I adore them all, but the ones for no reason, simply out of the blue...just because. Where he makes a point to spend time with me....those are the acts that renew my soul and have me wondering what have I ever done to be so deserving of such a wonderful, thoughtful loving man...to have him love me so completely. I fall in love with him all over again...every day.