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When daily life gets "too much"- when you're frazzled- what's your favorite escape? Where's your favorite hideout? What's your favorite leisure activity? Do you know your partner's answers to these questions? This week on your Friday night date, or sometime during the week, give a nice discussion about these issues since knowing the answers to these questions can be of great value to both of you.

This week prepare a five-course dinner- and serve each course in a different room of your home. Choose any room you wish, but dessert must be served in the bedroom. Bon appetit!

Rent an old movie this weekend, or a new release you haven't seen, and watch it together with popcorn and your favorite soda on a mattress you've put on the floor. Cuddle under a warm blanket or soft down comforter. Enjoy the movie and each other.

This weekend dedicate a song to your husband by calling a radio station that takes dedications. Make sure he is tuned in and listening at the time the dedication is aired. This would be a fun surprise!

Tell your husband you love him everyday this week.

Begin each day this week with the words "I love you" whispered to your husband while you're still in bed. It will set the tone for your entire day. End each day this week with the words "Thank you" whispered to him before you drift off to sleep. It will help bring you peace.

This week buy or make note cards, one for each day of the week. You might place one in his sock drawer, one in his clothes closet pinned to his suit or clothing he is wearing the next day, one tucked in his lunch bag or box, or one in his briefcase. Use your imagination!

Say it with scent this week- make your bedroom extra special for this Friday night date at home. Make your bed with some silky satin sheets and pillowslips (or you might prefer nice new crisp cotton sheets).
Sprinkle a little of your favorite powder or perfume between the sheets so they smell nice. When your sweetie enters the bedroom, have the lighting turn down low, or perhaps off, with a candle burning on the nightstand, and have him find your favorite nightie draped across your pillow.

This week pamper your husband with a nice warm bath-lots of bubbles too! In addition to the bubble bath, have the lights turned off and a candle or two lit for atmosphere. Bring in a portable radio so you can have music. Take him by the hand and lead him into the bathroom. If you can both fit into the tub, that is even better. If not, you can take turns. Give him a nice soothing massage when you are done.

Schedule a lunch date one day this week with your husband. The idea that you are taking time out of your busy day to be with him will make him feel special.

This week send him on a present hunt. Begin with note #1 on his pillow. The not should include something you like about him and instructions to find the next clue, and so on. End up at the mailbox and have a present in it. It doesn't have to be anything expensive. The thoughtfulness and your use of imagination with this activity will be
enough to show that you love him.

This week send a no-occasion gift. It would be nice to send it to the office or his workplace because giving a gift that others know about
definitely spells romance. Receiving a gift this way makes it doubly special.

This week write your husband a love letter. Buy some special stationary. Many stores have decorative stationary that you can buy by the sheet. Tell him how much he means to you. Write some of the wonderful memories you've shared together. Write about when you first met, your first date, your first kiss, your engagement, your wedding, the birth of your children, anything that will convey your special loving feelings and appreciation for him. Be sure to encourage your husband to reciprocate. These letters can be very precious and likely will be kept forever, someday maybe even shared with your grandchildren. This is a good one to repeat again and again. Also these letters can be valuable to re-read when marital challenges come into play. These loving sentiments have the power to melt away protective walls we often put up during these times and help put lives back in proper perspective.

This week give each other an index card. Write down five things that you would like him to do for you this week and vice versa. Do them this week.

This week sleep under the stars. This is sure to be a romantic night. You can do this in your own backyard. All you need is sleeping bags or blankets and your pillows. A tent for privacy would be nice too. An air mattress would be great. This might be a good evening for Dutch oven cuisine, toasted
marshmallows, and warm hot chocolate.

Declare you sweetie "King for a day" one day this week, probably on a Saturday when he is home. Begin the day with breakfast in bed. (You could even pick up a king crown at Burger King and have him wear it for at least a moment or two!) Pamper him with foods and activities that you know he will enjoy throughout the remainder of the day.

This week, schedule an evening with another couple or two with whom you both enjoy keeping company. Plan some fun games and good food. In your planning think of a few compliments you can give to your mate in front of your friends. He may act embarrassed, but secretly he'll love it. Remember a compliment has at least twice the impact when it is said in front of someone else.

Bring him breakfast in bed one day this week. Most department stores sell a breakfast tray of some sort. This is a great investment if you don't already have one as it can be used for both of you over and over again. Bring him his paper if you get the paper, or if you have a TV in your room, he may like to watch the morning news and weather while he enjoys his meal.

For this week's date go into town for dinner, a movie, or to shop for something you have been needing for the home or office. When you are driving, each of you selects a car color. Every time you see your car color, he has to give you a kiss. Every time he sees his car color, you have to give him a kiss. (Make sure you pick a common color!) At the end of the game, whoever has the most points (kisses) gets a wish granted. You can decide on the stakes at the beginning of the trip. You'll be shocked at how fast time flies when you're having fun.

This is a fun exercise to do over dinner one evening this week. Each of you writes down your personal
definition of these words. Compare your answers and discuss. (There are no right or wrong answers.) LOVE, MARRIAGE, HAPPINESS, INTIMACY, PASSION, COMPROMISE, COUPLE, MASCULINE/FEMININE

This week go for a drive with your husband along some scenic route you like. Bring along your favorite CD's or cassettes and listen as you drive and catch up on the day's or week's happenings.

Each day this week tell your partner one specific thing you love about him. You might keep in mind that compliments given in front of children, family, or friends have added significance and impact. Not only is this a powerful way to show love and appreciation from the recipient's point of view, it is an excellent example for child-parent modeling. The examples children see in their youthful years while growing up, to a great extent will carry forward in their own homes and personal relations when they reach adulthood.

This week each day (or at least a couple of times) hide some little treat for your husband. One day he might find a symphony bar in his sock drawer with a not that says, "We make beautiful music together. Let's make some tonight!" Or, "There are more hugs and kisses waiting for you when you come home tonight" attached to some candy hugs and kisses treats in his coat pocket. Or, make him some brownies for lunch and enclose a note inside the wrapping something like this, "If you liked this treat, just wait till this evening after dinner. I can hardly wait till we are together! Stretch your imagination!"
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