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Daddy's Little Girls, Good Wives Of Tomorrow
By: Glenys
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I don't think we realize how important our fathers are in our
lives. They are taking a bigger role in children's lives these days, but
when I was a child in the 50's, Dads went to work and mostly left the
childrearing to Mums. We children knew no different. It was the norm.
Sigmund Freud, the father of modern psychology states that a woman who was
deprived of the natural affection a father has for his child often has trouble
being a loving wife and trusting men. Now I don't believe we can make a blanket
statement like that and speak for all women- but I do believe that fathers teach
us to trust men.
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Sitting on Daddy's knee and relaxing while he reads
us a story or cuddles us is critical for our development of trust in
people and in God as our heavenly Father. I don't believe this is
relevant just for girls. Boys need a close relationship with their
fathers too- because children watch everything a father does- he is a
role model. How a child relates to her/himself is often a reflection of
the love or lack of that a father gives.
Fathers of today usually are split 50/50. There is the New Sensitive Guy
and the Absent Guy. Often in today's world, this is not the father's
fault. Lots of women are choosing single parenthood as an option. This
is disastrous for the future generation. Everyone needs a father figure.
To not know a father's love is to my mind, a sad circumstance.
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Although Freud's statement cannot talk for all womankind, I
do believe some of it is relevant today. I believe that women deprived of the
masculine input that a father brings can seek to compensate for it by becoming
stridently feministic and distrustful of males. Again, not all but a lot. For a
Father's input is something we seek even subconsciously and we will find someone
or something to replace the emptiness and fulfill the desire to have a
relationship with our father.
I think it is so beautiful that our God describes Himself as our Father. It
strikes a note deep within our heart for the acceptance and love that we need
from our earthly father. And it is something that the majority of people can
easily relate to. For through Fatherhood, our Heavenly Father describes the
attributes of the love He has for each of us.
I believe we wives should cultivate respect for our children's fathers. We
should teach our sons that this is how a father responds to his children so that
they will be good fathers to our grandchildren. Our daughters should see that
their father is to be respected and loved so as to help them be their husband's
helpmeet and in so doing be loving and responsive partners.
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The cycle of generations of fatherless
children is going to be a tragedy for countless families. Let us
who know to respect and love our husbands cultivate a loving
relationship between them and our children- that Daddy's little
boys can be strong confident men and Daddy's little girls be
sweet and loving contented wives and mothers. In doing so,
we will be opening the hearts of those most precious to us to
the beauty of our Heavenly Father's loving care for us.
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